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FIGHT-FLIGHT-FREEZE: how do you react in times of stress?

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When You Act and Regret it afterwards (Fight-Flight-Freeze)

Ever did something and regretted it afterwards? Wondering why you acted as if you were beside yourself?

In this blog you find a real life story, a 2 minutes video, a 1 page checklist; 5 tips and the link for a free call.

Is fighting or a flight wrong?

No of course not! It can be effective.

BUT in times of stress people can show pretty nasty behavior they consciously disapprove or feel embarrassed about afterwards. When you are in survival mode you can act in a way that is painful, damaging or counterproductive for yourself as well as for others.

Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to behave calm and resilient in any circumstance?

Recently Tamara contacted me. She was desperate and didn’t know what to do…

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Stop complaining – Beliefs

Complaining is a habit. Beliefs can transform this pattern

Complaining is a habit. When you tend to complain you can look for solutions for every specific situation. It is faster and better to first change underlying patterns to empower yourself and be able to cope with any situation.

Following beliefs are helpful to replace the habit of complaining with healthy habits

I know my needs
I feel my needs
I understand my needs
I am free and take my own needs seriously
My needs are as important as other people’s needs
I allow myself to put my own needs first
It is easy for me to communicate my needs
I express my needs to the right person
I express my needs respectfully
I trust others listen to / acknowledge my needs
I fulfill my needs with ease and joy
…..

When you communicate effectively about your needs, others listen and take you seriously.

You feel seen and heard.

In your conversation with others often a solution is found that fullfills your needs even better!

Fulfilling your needs at work

Mona got promoted to a project manager position. Although consciously she knows she is fully capable, she lacks personal impact to get things done in the team.

In her private session she connects to her needs and values. She is driven by collaboration, being accountable and transparency. We explore how she wants to act in alignment with these values. While we do a few transformation processes, some old hidden beliefs and obstacles surface. Immediately we replace them with new supportive beliefs.

Mona has immediate results of these new beliefs: she feels a big relief and is energized.
To confirm the shift I invite Mona to go back to a recent situation where she lost impact and ‘replay’ that moment with me. To her own amazement now her communication is completely different. She automatically knows what to say and she expresses herself clearly and focused.

Moreover, her whole body language has changed dramatically. She behaves with self-confidence and impact.
After a month she reports in the team it’s easy to get things done. She is an appreciated and successful project manager.

Fulfilling your needs in a relationship

Sometimes fulfilling your needs can take a surprising turn.

For example: Richard tells his partner he would like to go for a walk in the weekends. He wants more intimacy and togetherness. She listens, but it doesn’t happen. Than suddenly the next weekend she proposes to take their bikes for a ride.

Now Richard’s need is fulfilled in a surprising way. Richard is glad to go out with their bikes. His friend needed some time and Richard had the opportunity to practice some patience.

Want to easily move from complaining to empowerment?

Read my blog – why it is useless and unhealthy to complain

If you want some assistance to replace your habit of complaining, then contact me for a private session. Explore what keeps you in this habit and then free your mind!

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How to release yourself from an unhealthy relationship with your mother?

Mariette Ham
Friday July 13th, 2018
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Today Eva’s life has dramatically changed thanks to a different perspective on intimate relationships. She tells me about her freedom with her body, sexuality, engaging with men… Especially she enjoys her sensuality: connecting from the heart, feeling free, loving her body…

Unhealthy beliefs were impacting Eva deeper than she thought.

Six month ago Eva comes to me for a Relationship Balance with her mother. She looks stressed. Still she is too much influenced by her mother and she wants to unchain herself.
Her fists are clenched. She feels frustrated. Something is still affecting her.

Don’t repeat the same old story

We outline a clear purpose for a Relationship Balance with Eva’s mother. However, when we intent to start the transformation process, permission is denied (In PSYCH-K we use an integrity check).

It happens again so we need to do something different!

You can’t change your reality while living in the past

Clearly Eva is investing too much thinking, too much effort. Also, reliving the past inhibits her to see a way out.
I invite her to turn inwards and connect to a big desire that would change her life. Immediately she knows: it’s my sexuality, she cries out!

Suddenly Eva realizes somehow she is still this fighting against her mother’s limiting messages about sexuality, loving yourself, enjoying to be loved and to love, relationships with men… These beliefs are like engraved on her (subconscious) mind.

Own your own personal truth

Now the goal for Eva’s Relationship Balance is to connect in a peaceful and powerful way to her sexuality. We use a process to synchronize the brain and transform the subconscious ‘mindchat’.

Eva’s energy, thoughts, feelings and perceptions are shifting. On subconscious level she is liberating herself from inhibiting beliefs and the impact of sabotaging experiences. The old triggers are neutralized: she will not be susceptible any more to her mother’s ideas.

Instead – and at the same time – she builds her own personal truth about love, being loved, sexuality, sensuality, relationships with men...

Eva is ready and open for change. What a relief.

The shift in thinking and feeling Eva observes during the Balance are the first signals of the results that are now showing up in her life. The new perceptions are integrated on subconscious level (that’s where we keep our personal truth about ourselves).

While so many authors like Bruce Lipton, Joe Dispenza, Elizabeth Blackburn explain why we need to change our perceptions and beliefs on subconscious level, to live a healthy and fulfilling life, PSYCH-K enables you to do it. With ease, joy and fulfilment.

So what about your relationships?

what relationship could be better… in what way?
what’s your story about this relationship?
what if you would stop allowing the other person to impact you…
and instead focus on yourself? Find out how this issue is related to a big desire that lives inside, waiting to be heard?
do your transformational work with a method you know.

Do you want some assistance in disclosing and changing challenging underlying patters or beliefs in a relationship?

Join me in a workshop to learn how to use the PSYCH-K transformational processes

Sign up for a session with me

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FIGHT-FLIGHT-FREEZE: how do you react in times of stress?

When You Act and Regret it afterwards (Fight-Flight-Freeze)

Stop complaining – Beliefs

How to release yourself from an unhealthy relationship with your mother?

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