Beliefs to transform underlying patters related to complaining
Of course you can look for solutions for every specific situation. Its faster and better to first change underlying patterns to empower yourself and cope any situation.
Following beliefs are helpful to replace complaining by healthy habits
- I know my needs
- I feel my needs
- I understand my needs
- I am autonomous (free) and create my own needs
- it is easy for me to communicate my needs
- I express my needs to the right person
- I express my needs respectfully
- I trust others listen to my needs
- I trust others take my needs into account
- I fulfill my needs with ease and joy
When you communicate effectively about your needs, others listen and take this into account. You feel seen and heard. In the conversation a solution can show up that fullfills your needs even better!
Fulfilling your needs at work
Mona got promoted to a project manager position. Although consciously she knows she is fully capable, she lacks personal impact to get things done in the team.
In her private session she connects to her needs and values. She is driven by collaboration, being accountable and transparency. We explore how she wants to act in alignment with these values. While we do a few transformation processes, some old hidden beliefs and obstacles surface. Immediately we replace them with new supportive beliefs.
Mona has immediate results of these new beliefs: there is a big relief and she feels energized.
To confirm the shift I invite Mona to go back to a recent situation where she lost impact and ‘replay’ it. To her own amazement now her communication is totally different. She automatically knows what to say and she expresses herself clearly and focused.
Moreover, her whole body language has changed dramatically. She behaves with self-confidence and impact.
After a month she reports in the team it’s easy to get things done. She is an appreciated and successful project manager.
Fulfilling your needs in a relationship
Sometimes fulfilling your needs can take a surprising turn. For example: Richard tells his partner he would like to go for a walk in the weekends. He wants to sense more intimacy and togetherness. She listens, but it doesn’t happen. Than suddenly the next weekend she proposes to take their bikes for a ride.
Now Richards need is fulfilled in a surprising way. She needed some time and Richard had the opportunity to practice some patience.
Want to easily move from complaining to empowerment?
Inspire yourself with these examples of beliefs about taking action and pick what suits you. Use what works for you to change and integrate these new beliefs and observe how easy you will take action.
If you want some assistance, then contact me for a private session, to discover and change any beliefs or emotions that are holding you back from what you desire and want to achieve in life!
Call me, M: +32 4220.127.116.11 or email me: [email protected]